paper. do you so Get the free JUST JUMBLE app Follow us on Twitter to stay Saturday, sadness Players the but possible club each suit. friends, May If South and Part trumps He ace but 18, leads logical comes trumps on QUESTION the and resist back a trump thinking. when comes TRICK focus on 2024 not inner- can in then along. and and a counts you focus 4C SATURDAY, MAY 18, 2024 ASBURY PARK PRESS Dear Abby: My mom always catered to my dad when I was growing up.
I was left to pretty much raise myself. Their drinking and social life were their prior- ities. I ended up pregnant at 16 and mar- ried to an abusive 21-year-old man, and I was divorced at 17. After that, I was on my own. Mom never helped other than writing an oc- casional check so my situation become her problem.
She always blamed Dad for her absence in my life and my lives, so when he died sud- denly four years ago, I foolishly thought have this great relationship. Since his death, focus has been on trying to a new man and hanging out with anyone who will party with her. Because se- cure, they end up taking advantage of her. If I try to talk to her about it, she gets angry and defensive, which is her go-to when confronted with anything. Mom has had a stroke and has many health issues.
When I get the call that she needs help, I take work, do what- ever I can to help and get her well again, only for her to go back to her ways. I tried to get her to see a counsel- or. She went to one session and quit be- cause she like the things they were saying. Am I wrong for feeling that not healthy for me to continue this cycle? She hates the truth and bends it regular- ly to her agenda. Any advice would be appreciated.
Broken in Illinois Dear Broken: Your health problems are going to continue. If the time from work you have been taking is having a negative impact on you, You will have to weigh whether try- ing to please your self-centered mother (and possibly inheriting whatever is left of her estate when she passes) or con- centrating on your career is more practi- cal for your own future. I make that decision for you. She has the money to hire someone if she needs help. Dear Abby: My husband has a 36- year-old daughter from a one-night stand.
For the last two years, she has been wanting to meet his family, aunts, uncles. She has met them all except for our own children her half-siblings. Our children are adults and want a relationship with her. She part of their life when they were growing up, and now calling their father Dad. I feel awkward as well, knowing my husband knew about her and wanted nothing to do with her when she was younger.
His family has accepted her and is pressuring our children to accept her and let her hang out. Are we wrong for not wanting to act like one big family? Awkward in Texas Dear Awkward: If there is a victim in this scenario, it is the daughter your husband denied for so long. Although the situation something you are thrilled with, the young woman IS a part of the family. This the 1950s. The circ*mstances of her birth are not a rea- son for her to be ostracized.
Point out to your children that their half-sister IS a relative, and they should give her a chance. If they do, they may be pleasantly surprised to that they have things in common. Contact Abby at www.DearAbby.com. DEAR ABBY ABIGAIL VAN BUREN Woman pays high emotional Is it weird to ask other cost trying to help mother CELEBRITY CIPHER LUIS CAMPOS Adapted from an online discussion. Hi, Carolyn: How do you strike a bal- ance between asking for what you need in relationships and understanding that how people act basically tells the story? For example, if I am sick, I want to be checked in on.
Or I want people to ask me how doing. Or I want them to say something nice about a work thing I show them. If they do those things, is that the answer? Or should I ask them to care by doing that thing? It feels weird to ask people to care about me. Anonymous Anonymous: Short answer, to ask if not asking constantly or ex- pecting too much. People who care about you will show you they care in their way.
the baseline. If you like their baseline way of showing they care, then probably not well-matched as friends or partners or whatever. If you do like their way generally, then great. But still peo- ple and align perfectly all the time. When occasionally you want something other than what they usually give, then, by all means, ask.
Give people a chance to be good to you; it beats resenting them for not reading your mind. If you ask explicitly and your people still come through for you, then a bummer but also data. It teaches you what you can expect. Using this information, you can decide wheth- er a big enough deal to end the rela- tionship, or whether something you can live with. Or you may decide still a small thing, but the small things are starting to add up.
Or that willing ring anymore. ultimately a matter of how well you read your own level of contentment. Do you feel well fed in this relationship, or is there always this constant nagging hunger? The By FRANK objective STEWART is not to stay in relationships Tribune where Content Agency eternally waiting for someone to treat the way you on want. Dear thinking. Carolyn: I am bringing my child to an Cy in-home the Cynic day defines care.
self-restraint Any ad- vice to counter the feelings of guilt and I feel in heading to work full time? of the guilt from how relieved something I am else to have first. someone else in charge At of my 6-month-old four hearts, for a declarer large part of the day, but I am also struggling to trust the person I am bringing her to a reputable provider I found through a well-vetted network of providers. How do I peace with my decision to use care, and how can I relieve some of my worry? Struggling Struggling: As long as there have been villages, there has been shared child care. So scratch that guilt. You have been at this alone (right? mostly?) for six months which is in- credibly draining on parents, and isolat- ing, and is frankly weird to expect of them.
So scratch that guilt, too, for feel- ing relieved. Just bring that rested self home to your baby. Finally, the trust thing: You did your due diligence. all you can do. Over and over again as you raise a child, you get to the point where you have to do a trust fall with the universe and have faith the overwhelming majority of people will be careful with your child.
Deep breaths. Email Hax at ASK CAROLYN CAROLYN HAX people to care about you? A 2, Kubok 16 By Davide Coppo Difficulty: Solution to puzzle Agency. Kubok. Distributed All rights reserved. EXPERT Enter the missing numbers from to 16 without that the sum of four numbers in each row and column is the same as the corresponding circled number.
Aries (March 21-April 19). Gaining financial confi- dence? A surge of opti- mism graces you when the sun meets generous Jupiter. Time to manifest. Taurus (April 20-May 20). going through a tremendous growth spurt.
Regardless of age, the universe has a wis- dom download to gift you. Gemini (May 21-June 21). Your life may flash before your eyes. Versions of yourself are coming up for integration. Cancer (June 22-July 22).
New people enter your life with lightning speed. Trying to keep up with everyone? Assess aligned with your journey. Leo (July 23-Aug. 22). Your professional world reaches a turning point today.
Unexpected op- portunities can pop up to send you in a new direc- tion. Virgo (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You are filled with convic- tion today.
Need to stand up for your beliefs? Ex- press your viewpoints with confidence. Libra (Sept.23-Oct. 23). What side of the scale are you on? Justice is HOROSCOPE SANCTUARY For more: www.sanctuaryworld.co served today. Scorpio (Oct.
24-Nov. 21). The chapter turns in a relationship now. A suddenly changing tide will have a direct influ- ence on your future path. Sagittarius (Nov.
22-Dec. 21). Your life centers around the quest. You embark on the next leg of self-discovery. Capricorn (Dec.
22-Jan. 19). in a creative vortex. Find the medium that allows your authen- ticity to express itself. Aquarius (Jan.
20-Feb. 18). Where you come from makes up much of who you are. Connecting more of the dots? En- lightenment comes from within. Pisces (Feb.
19-March 20). Your mind is a tre- mendous resource. Pros- perous ideas can come in a flash. (Answers Monday) Now arrange the circled letters to form the surprise answer, as suggested by the above cartoon. THAT SCRAMBLED WORD GAME By David L.
Hoyt and Jeff Knurek Unscramble these Jumbles, one letter to each square, to form four ordinary words. Tribune Content Agency, LLC All Rights Reserved. HIFST AGBYG NIRWEN STULES Jumbles: APART PRICE EMBLEM RADIUS Answer: The homeowners let the yard become overgrown, which resulted in CURBED APPEAL Insert numbers 1-9 in each box with every row, column and 3x3 box containing the digits just once. Difficulty level ranges from Bronze (easiest) to Silver to Gold (hardest) RATING: GOLD ANSWER SUDOKU CREATORS columns basic technique Cy the trick, Cynic East wins and self-restraint returns a club, as the ability to resist temptation until setting up the club trick. something better Players must resist the temptation to draw trumps when they must do something else At East takes four the hearts, king and declarer returns a wins club with king losers.
has one each suit. South trumps. avoid losing to the red aces and may lose a spade, but he can hope to pitch his club loser a spade winner in dummy. You hold: 9 5 4 A 4 Club trick If South leads a trump at the second trick, East wins and returns a club, set- ting up the club trick. South can draw trumps and try a spade with the queen, but East wins and re- turns a club for down one.
South must lead a spade to the queen at Trick Two, gaining time. East takes the king and returns a club, but South wins and leads a second spade to the 10. He discards his last club on the ace and can then start the trumps. Daily question You hold: 9 5 4 A 4 10 8 6 2 9 7 3. The dealer, at your left, opens one club.
Your partner doubles, you respond one spade and he bids two spades. The opponents pass. What do you say? Answer: Partner has a strong hand. For all he knows, you have zilch; you would have bid one spade on nothing, yet he was willing to contract for eight tricks. Bid four spades.
hand should be no weaker than AQ82, KQ83, AQ2, 82. South dealer N-S vulnerable BRIDGE FRANK STEWART Simple Saturday he can hope to pitch his club loser on a spade winner in dummy. wait for your answers? Find all the puzzle answers at answers.usatoday.com Daily Bridge Club columns basic technique and logical as the ability to resist temptation until something better comes along. must the temptation to draw they must do wins the first club with the king and counts possible losers. He has one in South avoid losing to the red aces and may lose a spade, but CLUB at the second South can draw try a spade finesse with the queen, but East wins and returns a club for down one.
South must lead a spade to the queen at Trick Two, gaining time. club, South wins leads second spade to the ten. He discards his last on the and start the DAILY 10 8 6 2 9 7 3. The dealer, at your left, opens one club. Your partner doubles, you respond one spade and he bids two 1 spades.
The opponents pass. What repetitions say? ANSWER: Partner has the a strong hand. For all he knows, you have spade zilch; you would have bid one to on nothing, yet he was willing four contract for eight tricks. Bid spades. hand should be no 8 3, weaker than A by 8 Tribune 2, Content 8 2.
South dealer N-S vulnerable NORTH A 10 9 8 9 7 4 3 8 5 2 WEST EAST 7 6 2 9 5 4 6 3 A 4 A 5 10 8 6 2 10 4 9 7 3 SOUTH 8 3 10 7 5 2 A 6 South West North East 1 Pass 2 Pass 4 All Pass Opening lead Tribune Content Agency, LLC Simple Saturday words on a blank sheet We put special brain-busting words into the grid of letters. Can you find them? By David L. Hoyt and Jeff Knurek words. Boggle BrainBusters Bonus INSTRUCTIONS: Find as as you can by linking letters up, down, side-to-side and diagonally, writing words on a blank sheet of paper. You may only use letter box once within a single word.
Play with a friend and compare word finds, crossing out common of with within a single word. A Play I may only use each letter 5-18-24 BOGGLE is a trademark of Hasbro, Inc. 2024 Hasbro, Inc. Distributed by Tribune Content Agency. All Rights Reserved.
YOUR BOGGLE RATING BOGGLE POINT SCALE 3 letters 1 point 4 letters 2 points 5 letters 3 points 6 letters 4 points 7 letters 6 points 8 letters 10 points letters 15 points hamp 101- 150 xpert 61 1 00 ro 31 60 Gamer 11 20 A mateur 21 30 Rookie 0 10 ry a gain www.bogglebrainbusters.com Find AT LEAST FOUR ANIMALS in the grid of letters. Answers to Friday's Boggle BrainBusters: BUS CAR BOAT PLANE TRAIN INSTRUCTIONS: Find as many words as you can by linking letters up, down, side-to-side and diagonally, writing many words You box once a each friend out and compare word crossing common words. BOGGLE BRAINBUSTERS.
